Two weeks ago, I wrote about fighting for joy. That same day, those words became my reality. I had to fight for my joy like never before. I had a terrible experience that shattered me. I cried harder than I ever thought possible. As someone who prides themselves on being strong, I never imagined I would cry in public, a whole hard guy like me. But there I was, unable to hold back the tears.
The tears kept flowing, stretching into the night. I had so many questions and no answers. I was dealing with something I thought I had overcome, only for it to resurface, leaving me confused and overwhelmed.
That night, I thought I had no more tears left. But as I journaled, grief crashed over me like a wave. I broke down, not just in tears, but in full-blown wailing. I couldn’t even pray. I had no words. Just deep, gut-wrenching sobs, but thank God for the Holy Spirit, who intercedes when we cannot.
In that moment, I could only think of one person to call, my senior friend. It was already midnight, but I called anyway. As soon as she heard me crying, she panicked and asked what was wrong. All I could manage to say was, “I’m having an emotional breakdown, and I didn’t know who else to call.” That was all she needed to hear. She let me cry on the phone for the next 20 to 30 minutes. When I was done, she gently asked if I wanted to talk about it. I did.
We talked through everything. She encouraged me and prayed with me. By the time the call ended, I felt lighter. In the days that followed, my other friends kept checking in, offering prayers, encouragement, and presence.
The Gift of Godly Friendships
I share this because it reminded me of something important: the power of friendships, and the true gift of godly relationships.
I remember a season when I felt completely alone like I had no one to turn to when life got overwhelming. I prayed earnestly for meaningful friendships, and God answered. He surrounded me with people who have shown up for me in ways I never expected. Time and again, my friends have shown up for me, standing in the gap both physically and spiritually.
I remember another time last year when I had an emotional breakdown and didn’t speak to anyone about it. By morning when I woke up, one of my friends randomly called me insisting we hang out. Reluctantly, I went. During that time together, he shared a personal experience, one we had never spoken about before. His story lifted my spirit in a way I can’t explain, and even now, I hold on to that conversation as a source of encouragement.
The Truth About Community
Friendships and community matter. But we live in a world that glorifies isolation. Social media tells us we don’t need friends. That friendships are toxic, and that people will always disappoint. But that was never God’s intention.
From the very beginning, God designed us for connection. Adam had Eve, Jesus had the 12 disciples, Samuel had Eli, Mary had Elizabeth, Ruth had Naomi, Paul had Timothy, and David had Jonathan. We were never meant to do life alone. God designed relationships to be a source of strength and support.
Sometimes, you’re the one being supported. Other times, you’re the one offering support (yes, I do that too, before anyone starts thinking I’m not a good friend 😂😂). And often, you are co-partners in destiny. No matter your role, cherish the people God has placed in your life. Pour into those relationships and allow yourself to be poured into too.
Friendships are vital, but so are mentors. People who can guide you, see ahead of you and help you navigate this journey called life. Find yourself a mentor too or be a mentor to someone.
So, if you’ve been blessed with good friends and communities, be intentional about them. Reach out, check-in, and be present, not just in the good times, but in the tough ones too. And if you’re in a season where you feel alone, don’t hesitate to ask God to send the right people into your life. He still answers those prayers.
Life was never meant to be walked alone. The gift of men is one of God’s greatest blessings, cherish it
Because truly, life is richer, lighter, and more beautiful when shared with the right people.
I’d see you soon 🤗🤗
